To be a Steward

What’s the deal with stewardship? It’s an interesting word. Steward. Sometimes, it’s a noun. Less often, it’s a verb. How does this ancient concept apply to lives lived in this millennium? As a concept, should it apply to me as I work through my discernment? How?

It’s an interesting idea. It involves action without ownership. In Bible stories things are given to a steward — tangible things, such as: a house, a vineyard, or, a sizeable sum of money. And with the tangible comes the intangible: responsibility, trust, and time. The master then departs, leaving the stewards to their own devices.

In the New Testament, one tale is sometimes referred to as the Parable of the Talents. It appears at the end of Jesus’s ministry as He heads to Jerusalem. In the 25th chapter of Matthew’s gospel, the Stewards’ tale is sandwiched between a story of readiness (Ten Bridesmaids) and an account of Final Judgment (Sheep and Goats).

Talent is the start of the narrative. Today we take talent to mean a special natural ability or apptitude for achievement. Back then, it was a measure of weight — approx. 200 pounds in gold for the ancient Hebrews. (So, at a price of $1300 an ounce, a talent of gold today could be worth 4.16 million dollars — a sizeable chunk of change!). As he heads out of town, the big man calls in his stewards, doles out the talents, and then he vanishes for a while. Upon his unexpected return, he calls them in again — “Circle up! Tell me lads, what’s been happening around here?”

Accounts are rendered. Some of the reported returns are astounding (who wouldn’t love to see such growth in a retirement portfolio?). Affirmations abound — “Well done, good and faithful servant…but wait, there’s more!” Except for the guy who played it safe. He lost everything. Harsh treatment, right?

For years, every time I read the story, I fully identified with the risk-averse steward who buried his precious talent in the ground. But what if I could identify with the other stewards — what might life look like then?

How did those stewards achieve that return, I wonder?

First, they acted. They did something. They engaged. Second, I believe they bet it all. No holding back. And why should they? Those talents were on loan, never theirs to begin with, but, theirs to do with whatever they could. Stunning freedom. Immense possibility. If only one can see the largess of the Owner. He endows, then steps aside. And longs to see what we might make out of the abundance of His generosity.

Here’s hoping for good ideas and some courage to act.

Richard Rumble
April 2014

Who am I

How do you discover, uncover, or claim one’s own gifts? In RUAH (Richmond Hill’s 2-year program in spiritual direction), we read Shame & Grace, by Lewis Smedes. As an exercise we were invited to pick one affirmation from a long list in the appendix to that book. I chose this statement (from p.168) “I am gratefully proud of being who I am and what I shall be.”

How does this statement fit my life and personal experience?

My understanding of who I am is finally becoming clearer to me. For years I have wandered, wondered and searched for an answer to: “Who am I?” During those travels I felt a lingering sense of shame because I didn’t know the answer to that particular question of identity. I’ve spent a lot of time and energy trying to understand that whiff of shame. The futility of this experience is slowly dawning on me. It’s time to get on with what I do know, and not be paralyzed by what I don’t, won’t, or can’t know.

Wow! There’s a blow for freedom. It seems my Wanderer has turned a corner and discovered a field, just like the man in the parable found in Matthew 13:44. “…the kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field, which a man found and hid; and for joy over it he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field.”

Being who I am — is this something one lives into? The being becomes the transformation. Incremental choices are made, and then acted upon, and then, slowly I build up an edifice of life, one small action at a time, just like bricks in a wall or words in a story. Doing nothing (no thing) leaves me lifeless, nowhere. I sense optimism here as well — especially the part about becoming “what I shall be.” This involves naming and claiming. And it’s all good.

Who am I now? At this moment, I'm a writer/designer living as an urban monk in an ecumenical retreat center housed in an historic monastery. This covers what I like to do (writing & designing), as well as where I am doing it. My understanding of (my) spirituality is deepening, as well as my understanding of call.

I am grateful for my sixty+year-old frame — my body and my mind. While I’ve been contemplative in my life these last years, I have been dividing my attention among various geographies of engagement. I yearn for some focused concentration. There are multiple facets of life within Richmond Hill. There’s the communications aspect, community life, community work, plus spiritual development.

Which way to go? “You have to say no to the old ways before you can begin to find the new yes you need.” That Betty Friedan quote holds real truth. Then there’s this, from friend Annie Campbell’s reflection on transition: “Take a deep breath and breathe in the not-yet-ness of what’s coming.”

So, I am in middle passage. And so deeply grateful to be here.

I can’t wait to see what’s next.

Richard Rumble
March 2014

Becoming a player

In an unconscious searching manner, I tried a lot of things in high school, attempting to figure out who I was. Here’s the short list, in no particular order: team sports, new friends, girl friends, music, art, surfing, reading, writing, public speaking. And drama.

In the tenth grade, I was sent to a rather tony prep school in Norfolk Virginia. Compared to the local public schools it was small, but rigorous — especially in its academics and athletics. Many of the students had been together since first grade, so as a newcomer, I found acceptance to be somewhat a challenge socially. Everyone seemed to excel in something, often in more than one thing.

In the spring of eleventh grade, my best friend tried out for the school play, a Moliere comedy. We gave him a lot of grief for joining the drama kids, teasing him mercilessly. Until the show, that is. That play was an absolute riot. They brought the house down. Afterwards, I asked Tom if he had as much fun as it looked like he was having. “Definitely the most fun I’ve ever had in my life,” was his reply. And he wasn’t kidding me. That did it for me. I wanted to know what that was like. I made up my mind to try out for the next play.

So, I come to twelfth grade, and it’s senior year. A play was picked and tryouts announced. I showed up, read some lines, and, to my absolute amazement, even though I had never been on stage or in any sort of play ever, I got a part.

Before my euphoria settled, a controversy erupted. Apparently, the faculty advisor who normally oversaw the drama productions decided he was in need of a sabbatical. The administration said fine, but there’ll be no play this year.

The core drama group who had put on all the plays in previous years were not going to be denied their last opportunity for a performance in their senior year. There was a protest, of course (hey, it was the late sixties, we had to do it). And a compromise was reached. The administration allowed us to mount the show, unsupervised by any faculty. But, instead of the usual run of two nights and a matinee, we were limited to a single night’s performance. A one-night stand was it — take it, or leave it.

That is all the motivation it took. The gauntlet was thrown down. And we were going to give them a show they wouldn’t forget. The play was “The Skin of Our Teeth” by 20^th century American playwright Thornton Wilder. Its three-act structure embraced quite a narrative arc, which we enhanced with special effects worthy of a Grateful Dead concert. In the end we were treated to a standing ovation with multiple curtain calls. It was breathtaking, electrifying, exhilarating… or, at least it was for me. And depressing.

May I explain that last comment?

Here’s what really struck me about being involved in that play. First, while the sets were being built, we rehearsed off-site. We were a month or more into the production, and it was time for the actors to go “off script” — i.e. memorize your lines so the director could begin blocking the play. Everyone else knew their lines. I did not know mine. I was encouraged by the director to knuckle down and learn the lines before the next rehearsal. After showing up clearly having ignored his advice, he asked me to step outside to have a chat. Out on that porch, he got into my grill, and very directly made it clear that he had taken a big risk in casting me, that he had confidence I could do my part. But, if I was thinking this was some kind of joke, be assured that he, and the rest of the cast, were dead serious about putting on the best show they possibly could. If I was unsure about making a contribution, then now was a good time to get the hell out of the way, because nothing was going to stop this show. “Are you in? Or out?”

It was like a well-deserved slap in the face. I had witnessed that same ferocity on a football field and on a wrestling mat. This was focused energy. And it is a wonder to behold. So, yeah, I was in. I learned my part.

And secondly, I began to live into the play. Which was an awesome experience, having a part in bringing an idea that big and abstract into a concrete, living thing. It was magical. The camaraderie between cast and crew was amazing. We laughed, we cried, we joked, we worked, and we sweated. We made something incredible that spring.

When the curtain rose on Act I, I began to have an odd feeling, like side-slipping in time. With each line, each move, each scene change, I saw the pages of the script turning in my mind’s eye. It was as though the alphabet of our dialog was sand pouring through the tiny waist of a gigantic hourglass. Each line was bringing us closer to the end, that edge — final curtain.

And I hated that. I did not want this to stop. I wanted the play to go on and on. But sadly, it had to come to a close.

I was bereft. When everyone went to the cast party, I went home. My parents were surprised to see me come in so early. “Why aren’t you at the cast party?” was Mom’s question to me. “I don’t know how you do it, Mom. How can you stand the end of a show?” My mother was an actress and had lots of experience in the world of theater. “It is hard,” she said, “but there’s always another tryout. And there’s always another show.”

“Not for me,” I said in pain as I went up to bed.

I have not gone back out on stage. But my youngest daughter got into theater. Attempting to be engaged and supportive, I found myself working crew backstage on a few of her shows. And I loved every minute of it.

There are so few opportunities for most of us to make something tangible in this life. So, if you’ve got a chance to participate in a play, here’s what I say. Go for it. Take the chance. At the very least, you will experience a bonding of a different sort, a teamwork that is not about winning a game, but about making something magical. Something meaningful. Even it’s only for a handful of scenes or a few acts.

And maybe you will have the satisfying knowledge that, for however brief the moment was, “Yeah, I was a player.”

Which all of us need to know, at least once, in this lifetime.

Richard Rumble, Class of 1970, Norfolk Academy 

(a.k.a. George Antrobus in “The Skin of Our Teeth”)

Doing what needs to be done

To do what needs to be done usually requires some shifting, selecting, discerning, sorting, choosing…and those processes begin with choosing basic criteria: an inner source (for a change)? Or, outer influence (the usual)?

Who is deciding what needs to be done? Put it another way. Do I drive? Or, am I driven?

Always, there is tension here — and it’s never  exclusively one vs. the other. I have, however, on quite a few occasions, put myself into the flow of external circumstances. Falling, like a leaf, into a torrent not of my own making, but a river or stream — it can feel like someone else’s storm run-off — my day gets carried along for the curbside ride, washing down the gutter, into the drain.

Yeah, I hate when that happens. Not much fun there.

We all know how friends, family and forces outside of our selves can bring strong influence into our day-to-day routines. But what about those inner resources? Are we paying proper attention to the quiet murmurs of the heart?

Shiftings. Siftings. How to sort this stuff out. Discernment is a big question for me at the moment. Do I move toward this work? Or some other?

I guess the obvious question could be “What most captures my attention?” To hold attention is to be held. Behold is to be held! What an epiphany. But, how best to move from attention to engagement?

Make choices. Decisions. There are many opportunities for this activity every waking hour of every day. What criteria can we use? One way is to plot out important vs. not important on one axis, and urgent vs. not urgent on another axis, and see where today’s activities end up. Staying in Quadrant II is tricky, but I believe that is where the truly valuable work resides. That Quadrant II requires real vision work and real heart work.

What does your heart desire? What do you see there? Hear there? Think, or feel there? Out of that place emerges what truly needs to be done.

Lord, teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts to wisdom. —Ps. 90:12

Richard Rumble
January 2014

Reflection on the Rule: Christian Social Transformation

CHRISTIAN SOCIAL TRANSFORMATION — Praying and working for the coming of the Kingdom of God in metropolitan Richmond.

Do we Christians transform our society?

How do we do that? By sheer force of will? Collective osmosis? Wishful thinking?

Before we become agents of transformation, agents of change, change is required on our part. “Become the change you want to see.” (who said that?) This change comes at a personal level, a molecular, individual level. It involves changing our minds, our hearts, and our behavior, too.

Beginning with our minds, let’s think about our notions of community. What does it mean to you? Community used to mean a group of interacting people, living in some proximity (i.e. space, time, or relationship). It usually refers to a social unit larger than a household that shares common values and has social cohesion. In this time of social media, our digital virtual connections begin to surpass or usurp realtime face-time with our neighbors. We have the possibility of “friending” those who we like, while flaming or conveniently ignoring those we don’t.

Examining our hearts, what do we find? Isolation that is inherent in our digital platforms sneaks up on us. “Me? Lonely? Are you kidding? I have 500+ friends on FB and 637 connections on LinkedIn. Don’t tell me I’m not connected!” To function well in a fully engaged manner, our hearts need to be tuned to both vertical and horizontal frequencies. That is, vibrating on a north-south axis, from the heights of heaven into the depths of our soul. As well as cultivating a horizontal awareness and love of all that surrounds us — in the form of people, places and things.

Now we come to our behavior. This is how our beliefs and intentions manifest themselves in the “real world.” Thoughts and beliefs that are not reflected in some sort of action bear little fruit. We are called to act, but, at the same time, often our actions are constricted, limited by our experiences, fears and failures. 

Jesus brought radical possibility into play with His ministry. He came to set us free from our constraints. And He is waiting to see what we will do with our precious possibility. I’m thinking we could all benefit from an inside-out approach to this transformation process…from inside: get clear, get thinking, and then, get working outside…and see how the Kingdom of God emerges in our own small corner of metropolitan Richmond.

This is Kingdom building, one brick at a time. May it ever be so.

Richard Rumble

October 2013

The work-around the work

There’s such a close connection between location and vocation. Listening to my friend Ben one morning as he shared an experience of his formation where he came to grips with feelings emerging from deep within, I realized just how challenging it is to do a deep dive into the interior realm. It takes courage to go there. And it certainly takes guts to come back out and share whatever you uncovered. Recovered. Or discovered.

So…how does location connect with vocation? Vocation is a calling. If we are listening and paying attention, a response is elicited. Just like the physical universe, for every action there is a reaction. What exactly is the Call? Something you hear? Feel? See?

How do we react when we get the call? Are we flat-footed? Or sure-footed?

Frequently, the locus of the Call lies embedded deeply within our selves. But who possesses the topographical map of their own soul? Over what inner distance or terrain does that Call have to travel before it registers in our consciousness?

Vocation can be cerebral, abstract, remote. Location is visceral, physical, concrete. Let’s look at some of the ways we interpret or discern where we are standing.

Here’s a short list of nine innate intelligences which are very useful for locating where we are:

• Linguistic: the use of verbal language.
• Musical: create, communicate meaning made out of sound.
• Logical: use, appreciate abstract relationships.
• Spatial: perceive, transform, create images from memory.
• Kinesthetic: use all or part of the body to create, solve problems.
• Interpersonal: recognize, make distinctions about others feelings, intentions.
• Intrapersonal: distinguish meaning among one’s own feelings.
• Natural: distinguish among, classify, use features of the environment.
• Existential: raise philosophical questions regarding life’s meaning.

Whichever way you prefer to roll, identifying or recognizing a nudge is a critical first step in responding to your call. The more familiar you become with how you tick, the quicker you may be to react to the prompting of your call.

For ages, sailors have attached small strips of cloth to sails and stays on their boats. These flexible flags of fabric are known as “tell-tales,” and they indicate the presence (or absence) of the wind. Of course, since no one can actually see the wind, these tiny tools prove very useful in sailing, as well as moving oneself from point A to point B.

Where are the tell-tales in your soul? Have you discovered them? In sensing the teasing touch of RUAH (God’s breath) on your shoulder, can you tell where that Wind is coming from? And where you are heading? Make your map. Get a fix. Mark your location. Press on… and into your calling.

Richard Rumble
August 2013

No direction home...